For most couples, “date night” means indulging at a new restaurant or going to the movies, but for Gregory and Jenna, who are newlyweds, it means having sex with other people. Gregory and Jenna are swingers. Although the term may conjure images of 1970s key parties, owners of swinger websites and event organizers say the popularity of the practice is increasing, with estimates ranging from 2 million to 15 million people engaging in the lifestyle worldwide. “It’s tough to get hard data because we’re such a secretive society,” says Dave Vandewouw, one of the founders and owners of Swingers Date Club, the world’s largest swinger site. “But since we launched 11 years ago, people have opened more than 7 million profiles.” In the past seven years, SDC has also helped establish four swinger resorts. “It’s so easy to meet couples online now,” adds Jason Jean, owner of SwingFestEvents.com, a company that organizes swinger events. Moreover, data suggests that many swingers fit the image of the neighbors next door: The median age for attendees of SwingFest 2008, held in Hollywood, Florida, was 34, with an estimated household income of $60,000.

So why are more women swinging? “For some, it’s a safe way to explore fantasies, even bisexuality,” says Jane Greer, Ph.D., a marriage and sex therapist in New York City. “Their husbands are right there, so it doesn’t seem like cheating.” It may also be that as women continue to achieve professional success—and experience the accompanying stress—they want the sexual freedom men have enjoyed for centuries, suggests Jonathan Alpert, a psychotherapist in New York City. “A good number of the swinging couples I see are successful, affluent and Ivy League–educated. The women have always done what’s been expected of them, and this is a chance for them to rebel.” Another theory: Some swingers may be thrill seekers who take risks in other aspects of their life. “The sexual stimulation they crave can be hard to satisfy in a monogamous relationship,” explains Frank Farley, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Temple University in Philadelphia. And then there’s the thrill of feeling desired and admired by another man. “A woman’s confidence can increase after realizing that her appeal extends beyond her spouse,” says Stella Resnick, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in Beverly Hills, California.

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Discover new terrain
The area between your chin and throat is the most sensitive part of your neck because the nerves sit closer to the skin’s surface. So get your guy to lightly lick this zone. Next, cup his testicles in your hand, stroking, rolling, and tickling them. Then massage the base of his penis. Since part of his joystick is hidden behind the scrotum, touching the base can give him novel thrills, says New York sex therapist Jane Greer, Ph.D.

Give him a racy rubdown
Have him lie on his stomach, then straddle his back, aligning your clitoris over his sacrum (the bony plate at the base of the spine, above the butt crack). Move your hips while using your hands to massage both sides of his spine. “The friction from his tailbone will arouse you, and you’ll awaken the sacral nerves that connect to his genitals,” says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of MyPleasure.com.

Caress each other
Have your guy spoon you while he reaches around and stimulates your breasts, rubbing the flesh above the areolae, in the 10 o’clock to 2 o’clock area. Meanwhile, graze your fingers along his inner thigh, stopping just before his scrotum, then quickly move back down. This thin-skinned area is especially sensitive, and coming close to his goods without making contact will keep him in a suspended state of excitement. Next, whisper something naughty. Greer says dirty talk raises testosterone levels, boosting arousal.

Amp up oral
The penis is famous for taking center stage during oral sex, but the testicles are supporting players that rarely get recognition. Lick the nerve-rich seam (that dark line down the middle of the scrotum), then gently push up against the base of his testicles with your hand. “You’ll arouse his prostate, a sensitive gland in his pelvic region,” says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First.

Get dirty in the shower
Haven’t given a hand job since high school? It’s time to get back to basics. Hop into the shower with him, soap up your hands, and wrap one around his shaft, squeezing as you move up and down, then switch to shorter, faster strokes on the head of his penis. If he can’t guess your next move, his arousal will intensify. And when you do finally hit the sheets, there will be an erotic payoff.

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NEW YORK (CBS) ― Spring has arrived and flowers aren’t the only thing blooming. Scientific research confirms that during this time of year, more so than any other, love blossoms, too.

“It’s like the winter sleep is over and they wake up fresh and full of energy,” marriage and family therapist Dr. Jane Greer said.

Whether it’s an extra spring in your step or the feeling of love in the air chances are you’re experiencing the symptoms of spring fever right now.

“The flowers, the smells, people laughing, a lot of happy people around,” one New Yorker said.

“I guess being cooped up all winter long, you know, you get kind of juiced up, ready to burst out,” another added.

And while It’s not a confirmed medical condition there is a lot of science behind this so-called seasonal disorder. The research actually shows the onset of spring can really affect your mood, behavior and especially your love life.

“In spring as light increases and days are longer, the melatonin decreases, giving more abundance, more energy and more vitality to people,” Dr. Greer said.

“The spring time actually brings about mood changes which might make it more easy for people to find a new relationship,” sociologist Dr. Julie Albright said.

Albright studies the science of relationships. In winter, when we’re are all bundled up, she says it’s virtually impossible to read each others’ sexual signals. And that’s not all…

“If you’re in a relationship, even if it’s not exactly what you want it to be, there’s a tendency to hold on to it and to stay put rather than to break out and put oneself out there onto the dating front because it’s too alone, it’s too dark in winter to start something new,” Dr. Greer said.

But at the first sign of spring, just like the rest of nature, humans blossom and the biological love clock is restarted.

In fact, statistics show conception is at its highest in the spring. Doctors say it’s linked to a spike in the production of a fertility hormone.

“You kind have a new little lease on life,” said Linda Porter of Love Spring.

Another study found that the more time people spent outside on a sunny spring day the better their mood. The optimal good mood temperature, they found, is 72 degrees.

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LOS ANGELES (KABC) — More people are “going green” these days to do their part to help the environment. But, what if you’re living with someone who isn’t as eco-friendly as you are?

Tania Reuben jumped into the green movement with both feet, even writing a blog as the PureNaturalDiva.com. It’s been an adjustment for her husband Michael.

“In some areas he’s excellent and very cooperative and in other areas I think I make him crazy,” said Tania.

“She was, I think, voted or put in some book as one of the 100 greenest women in America,” said Michael. “I would be put in the book for 100 most miserable men in America.”

He’s half-joking.

“You try to have a discussion about it, but when someone is green there’s no convincing them of any other way,” said Michael. “So I have to sneak things. I have a hidden stash of water bottles.”

While Tania and Michael work things out on their own, some couples need outside help.

Marriage and family therapist, Dr. Jane Greer has seen couples who don’t see eye-to-eye on the “green” thing.

“Like anything that goes on between two people, when one person wants to take new actions and promote health and the other person starts to experiences it as unwelcome change rather than something they’re on board with its inevitably going to create conflict,” said Dr. Jane Greer.

But she says it doesn’t have to be ugly if you approach it right.

“If you’re the person initiating the going green change, talk to your partner about it and present it in a way where you’re offering them a choice,” said Dr. Greer. “Invite them in to participate in the new plan.”

So rather than forcing the change you should explain the potential benefits. If you’re the one forced to go green, Dr. Greer says don’t automatically fight it.

“Ask your partner, ‘Why is it so important? How do you feel it’s going to make our lives better? What does it actually entail? What will I have to do?’ So check it out,” said Dr. Greer.

Either way, Dr. Greer recommends keeping the expectations in check and remember you might not always agree on everything.

“She wanted me to get bamboo underwear,” said Michael.

Dr. Greer says you might want to take baby steps. Try certain green trends and evaluate how they’re going before moving to the next ideas.
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DR. JANE GREER, host of her own hour long Internet radio show, “Doctor On Call” at www.healthylife.net The show, which covers a broad range of topics that touch us all, is a live every Tuesday 2 PM eastern time 11 am pacific time.

Starting January 26th and every last Tuesday of the month thereafter, Jane will be available on Doctor on Call to answer your questions about sex on Let’s Talk Sex. www.healthylife.net call in 800 -555- 5453 or 310- 371- 5444.

Dr. Greer is also featured on HealthyLife.Net News@7 which airs on the Internet Monday through Friday, 7 a.m. and 7 p.m. Pacific Time 10 am and 10 pm Eastern time at www.healthylife.net. News @ 7 is a brand new all positive radio news program

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Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally known marriage and family therapist in private practice for over twenty years. Her newest book for St. Martin’s Press is The Afterlife Connection: A Therapist Reveals how to communicate with Departed Loved Ones. She is also the author of Gridlock: Finding The Courage to Move on in Love, Work and Life and How Could You Do This To Me? Learning to Trust After Betrayal and Adult Sibling Rivalry.

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“When kids are in their teen years that’s when braces come into play, that’s when going to the dermatologist to clear up the acne to have smooth skin all becomes important because appearance does matter,” psychologist Dr. Jane Greer said…” ~

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By Chris Wragge

For many these are days of high anxiety, filled with stress that hangs over us on the job, at home, and, yes, even in the bedroom.

So if all that worry is sapping your urge for intimacy, CBS 2 HD has some things you can do to ensure a lively libido.

And the solution may be as close as your neighborhood grocery.

From the delights of champagne and caviar to garden variety fruits and vegetables, what we eat can affect our love life — just as stress can, too.

“During stressful times your body produces hormones and chemicals that are the exact antithesis of what a great sex life would be, so we have to counteract that,” sex therapist Eric Garrison said.

And one way to do that is with food.

“When we have that chocolate mousse and feel the chemical effect of the chocolate as well as the physical effect, sex is very similar to that,” Garrison said.

The dictionary defines an aphrodisiac as something that arouses sexual desire. And according to food historian Francine Segan there are foods that have been recognized for centuries for doing just that.

“Pepper, nutmeg, cinnamon, ginger … all these spices that heat up your system were considered to be aphrodisiac,” Segan said. “They saw right away you take a little nibble your tongue tingles; you get a little warm, you get flushed; you have to imagine it works in other parts of the body, too.”

The sharp, biting flavors of garlic and onions also stimulate blood flow, and were used long before that little blue pill.

“Fruit was considered to be an aphrodisiac,” Segan said. “It’s got sugar, it’s sweet and sensual in your mouth and in fact in the Renaissance they used to call raspberries ‘fruit nipples.’”

And we’ve all heard about oysters.

“Oysters are high on the long, long list of aphrodisiacs, and in fact seafood and Aphrodite the goddess of love go together,” Garrison said.

And there’s more than history here, there’s some medical fact. Oysters contain zinc, which controls the hormones progesterone and testosterone in men, and that has a positive effect on the libido. They should be eaten raw for the best effect.

There’s also the sensuous nature of foods like honey, or the heat induced by spices like ginger, especially when made into tea, and spiced up even more when it’s splashed on fruit or stirred into sweets.

So spicy or sweet, there’s plenty to pick from, and psychologists say this is one area where a placebo can be just as effective.

“If it’s in your mind and you think it’s going to make you feel sexier, it’s going to make you more confident. You’re going feel more turned on. You better believe it’s going to turn on a partner,” Dr. Jane Greer said.

Food historians say they know what doesn’t work. For starters, lettuce — because of it’s “limp” quality, and, ages ago, coffee!

In olden times, it was said coffee houses kept men out of their own homes for too long — away from their wives — the opposite of the desired effects of aphrodisiacs.