Kate Returns

By Dr. Jane Greer

Celebrity stars shine so bright and we look up to them.  Yet often we are puzzled when they fall, so Shrink Wrap is here to shed light on all.

From the moment Tom Cruise famously jumped on Oprah’s couch, skeptics across America began crossing their arms and starting to doubt.  He was so much older, she so young and naive.  It seemed so sudden and out of the blue, too unlikely, what was going on?

But both halves of TomKat seemed blissfully, ecstatically happy, way back then in 2005. Katie, known for her girl next door looks, puppy dog eyes and Ohio charm, clung to Tom in photos, smiling ear to ear.  The two kissed passionately on red carpets and never missed an opportunity to hold hands or gaze into one another’s eyes.  Katie, who once confessed to Seventeen magazine that she had daydreamed about marrying Tom Cruise as a little girl, must have been over the moon by the fairytale turn of events.  Soon they had Suri – born in the Spring of 2006 as bright eyed and brunette as her gorgeous parents.  Katie was 27 years old and the center of a Hollywood dream.  She, and her new family, were also the target of ruthless public scrutiny.

Like any woman transitioning from her 20’s to her 30’s, over the years, Katie began to change.  Katie evolved into Kate, a slighter, more sophisticated version of herself.  Her clothes grew more expensive, she traveled by private jet, mingled with Hollywood elite and became a paparazzi staple.  Her trademark crinkle-nosed grin smoothed into a sunglassed semi-smile, and we saw her coming and going from her New York apartment more often than on the silver screen.  The public scrutiny, however, so brutal in the beginning of her high profile marriage, had tamed.

And now this. Kate’s divorce from Tom Cruise kicks up all of that settled dust. It suggests that she may have been mustering up the guts to put herself through that ringer of public opinion, for a while.

The speculations about Suri, Scientology and Cruise’s sexuality will continue. But in the meantime we have to remember that choosing to leave a committed relationship is never easy, no matter who you are. Being the one who walks away doesn’t dampen the feelings of suffering, confusion and loss. We look forward to hearing from Kate on the other side, and seeing that crinkled grin again once her new life is back on the rails.

How did you find the strength to walk away from a serious relationship?  What was the final straw?

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Posted July 15, 2012 in News@7