The Afterlife Connection:A Therapist Reveals How To Communicate With Departed Loved Ones
By Dr. Jane Greer
“The Afterlife Connection is a lucid description of the survival of consciousness after death and how deeper understanding of our connection with this transcendent consciousness can help heal and transform our lives.”
Deepak Chopra, author of How to Know God
“Dr. Greer has written a heartwarming and inspiring book about seemingly miraculous afterlife connections that can be observed by all of us—if we are open—in everyday life. Scientists and laymen alike should read these accounts with wonderment and appreciation.”
Gary E. Schwartz, Ph.D., author of The Afterlife Experiments
Have you ever felt that someone you’ve lost is still with you? Have you ever seen a deceased loved one in a dream so vivid you’d swear it was real? Communication with those who have died is possible…and even therapeutic. THE AFTERLIFE CONNECTION: A Therapist Reveals How to Communicate with Departed Loved Ones (St. Martin’s Press, October 2003, $23.95, 0-312-30652-0) by Dr. Jane Greer is the first book by a traditionally trained psychotherapist that teaches how to initiate and maintain helpful communications with those who have passed on. Even if you don’t believe in life after death, or the ability to communicate in this fashion, the thought of continuing your relationship with the person you loved can be very therapeutic and beneficial.
After the death of her own mother, Dr. Greer began to experience what she termed transcommunications. These messages from her mother—often in the form of dreams, animal manifestations or electrical disturbances— proved to be both healing and enlightening. In THE AFTERLIFE CONNECTION, she offers exercises and tips designed to open the door to transcommunication, from mediation to channeled writing.
For anyone who has ever lost someone they loved, Dr. Greer’s book offers compelling evidence that those we hold dear are always with us. Her professional credentials along with her very personal experiences make THE AFTERLIFE CONNECTION an authoritative, accessible introduction to transcommunication and the many ways in which it can strengthen relationships in life and in death.
About the author:
Dr. Jane Greer is the author of Gridlock: Finding Courage to Move on in Love, Life, and Work; How Could You Do This to Me: Learning to Trust After Betrayal; and Adult Sibling Rivalry. One of America’s most trusted self-help experts, she writes an advice column for Redbook Magazine Online and is a longstanding member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. She practices in New York City.
THE AFTERLIFE CONNECTION:
A Therapist Reveals How to Communicate With Departed Loved Ones
0-312-30652-0
St. Martin’s Press / October 2003
Hardcover / $23.95 / 304 pages
How Could You Do This to Me?
Learning to Trust After Betrayal
By Dr. Jane Greer
With Margery D. Rosen
Trust is the cornerstone of all relationships, yet every day we hear another tale of marital infidelity, business impropriety, or breach of faith. Whether it’s lying, abandonment, waffling, or some other deception, betrayal shatters the ties that bind us and breeds self-doubt in its victims Some never recover.
But family therapist Dr. Jane Greer believes we can trust again after betrayal and even learn to protect ourselves from future predators. Probing the complex elements of betrayal, Greer explains how in HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME? LEARNING TO TRUST AFTER BETRAYAL (Doubleday; January 13, 1997), a healing guide to conquering rage, regaining dignity, and moving past the trauma of broken trust.
Compassionate and instructive, HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME? begins by zeroing in on the roots and devastating legacy of betrayal. Whether the betrayer is an opportunistic colleague, an unfaithful lover, an admirer, or a sibling, the act of betrayal destroys self-esteem and can make the victim feel unsafe emotionally, physically, and financially.
Offering sound advice and practical tips for identifying betrayers, Greer and Rosen explore the nature and consequences of betrayal, then construct an effective recovery plan for those who have been hurt. This three-pronged approach helps victims:
- Determine clearly what trust means to them
- Recognize the personal risk factors that make them vulnerable
- Manage the fallout from betrayal, no matter how deep the wounds.
Using case-study stories to illustrate the varied and hidden forms of betrayal, HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME? covers:
- Types of betrayers (Rivals, Admirers, and Users), how they operate, and how to spot them
- Blind trust and its Five Sandtraps
- How to confront a betrayer and what to do if the confrontation boomerangs
- The pros and cons of getting even and when and how to exact revenge
- How to practice the art of forgiveness
- Seven Lessons to Live By to help build trust again, including how to draw a personal trust profile and how to spot a toxic relationship
- And The Ten Commandments of Trust, culled from real people who learned the hard way.
Ranking high on Americans’ list of virtues, trust is invariably cited as the most important quality in a personal or professional relationship. It is the key to intimacy and any breach of trust has profound and far-reaching effects. In HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME? Greer and Rosen show how to avoid it when possible and how to heal when you can’t. Most important, they teach how to trust again – including relearning how to trust one’s own instincts.
About the Authors
Dr. Jane Greer is the coauthor of Adult Sibling Rivalry. A licensed marriage and family therapist, she is frequently called on by the national news media to speak about marital and family problems. She lives in New Jersey.
Marjorie Rosen is a freelance editor and writer with more than two decades’ experience working for major national publications. Her articles have won awards from the American Medical Association and the American Psychiatric Association. She lives in New York City.
GRIDLOCK Finding the Courage to Move On in Love, Work and Life
by Dr. Jane Greer
with Margery D. Rosen
Dan is a thirty-seven-year-old businessman who has no trouble meeting women. Never married, he just never found “the right one.” He always finds reasons why they aren’t right. Is she smart enough? Pretty enough?
Kim, thirty-three, is a human-resources manager at a small firm. Her frantic eighteen-hour days are making her sick and threatening her marriage, but she would feel like a “quitter” if she left.
Samantha and Janice met in grad school and became instant best friends who did everything together; Samantha even married Janice’s brother. But after Samantha’s sons were born, Janice cooled. Samantha is repeatedly hurt by Janice’s petty, hostile comments, and, years later, is still trying to win back Janice’s affection.
All of these people are stuck—in bad jobs, bad habits, and bad relationships. To the outside world they may seem to have it all, but each is trapped and can’t find a way out. All three have hit what psychotherapist Dr. Jane Greer calls “gridlock.”
But now Dr. Greer offers hope for them and anyone else who needs a jump-start to get moving. GRIDLOCK: Finding the Courage to Move On in Love, Work and Life (Doubleday; ISBN 0-385-49473-4; April 18, 2000; $23.95) is her refreshing new guide to breaking free of bad patterns that derail our lives.
Most of us have known this kind of inertia at some point in our lives, usually when we’re not getting what we want or need in love, in work, or in life. Yet some people stay in a dead-end job or hurtful relationship simply because they don’t know how to move on. Angry and frustrated, they can’t pinpoint exactly why that person, job, or choice paralyzes them. Some may sense that they’re following an old script, but don’t have a clue how to rewrite it. They feel defeated, hopeless and, above all, trapped.
Dr. Jane Greer, a nationally renowned marriage therapist, has been in private practice for more than twenty years and has witnessed virtually every form of gridlock, from stalled careers to destructive lifestyles. In clear, concise language, Dr. Greer explains why some people are able to steer clear of gridlock by relishing the unexpected and the risky, while others remain inhibited and cautious. She also supplies a revealing questionnaire that measures gridlock quotient, or “GQ.” A high GQ suggests that hidden roadblocks from the past are draining initiative and perpetuating bad patterns, whether in matters of the head or heart.
GRIDLOCK also gives specific directions for breaking through and, in the process, teaches…
- How to confront fears and tame anxiety.
- Why getting angry is not the problem; staying angry is.
- How to avoid “love ruts” and move toward more reciprocal relationships.
- How to spot dangerous anger styles around you.
- When to trust your instincts.
- How to stop being a “serial pleaser,” who is convinced that no matter how much you do, it’s never enough or never good enough.
- Why it’s critical that you banish guilt.
Filled with personal stories of classic cases, GRIDLOCK offers simple checklists to help identify problem areas and practical tools for fixing what’s wrong. One chapter explains “How to Spot a Dead-end Relationship.” Another chronicles the four types of lovers that can bring on gridlock (The Fantasy Lover, the Smothering Lover, the Neglectful Lover, and the Yo-yo Lover). Chapters devoted specifically to the workplace focus on “five key ruts” that create “overdrivers,” “career martyrs,” “system saboteurs” and others.
With GRIDLOCK, people learn to express their feelings accurately, change self-critical habits, deal with the many faces of anger, and enter healthy, intimate relationships. Self-knowledge is central to ending gridlock, and this book helps uncover it. It’s the perfect self-help guide for anyone who needs to jump-start his or her life.
About the Author:
Dr. Jane Greer is a nationally renowned marriage therapist who has been in private practice in Manhattan for over twenty years. She lectures across the country on marital, sexual, and family problems as well as on women’s and sibling issues. The author of How Could You Do This to Me? Margery D. Rosen is a veteran freelance writer and editor who specializes in relationship, family, and parenting issues. She has more than twenty years’ experience writing for national publications.
December 28th, 2009
